Real Talk | Is There a Nice Way to Reject Someone? (Spoiler: Kinda...But Not Really)

Let’s rip the Band-Aid off, shall we? Rejecting someone gracefully is like trying to eat a taco without something falling out—it looks doable, but reality hits different when the guac is sliding down your wrist.

The truth is, rejection—no matter how you serve it—is a meal no one’s excited to choke down. But is there a nice way to say, “Thanks, but I’d rather rewatch old crime documentaries than entertain this situationship”? Technically, yes. But sometimes the universe demands efficiency over politeness. And friends, I recently had to deliver a Michelin-starred rejection in record time.

The Scene:

This past weekend, I’m sitting at my local pub—just here to watch the game, kill time before my friends roll in, and, most importantly, mind my own business. In walks... we'll call him Tim. Now, I don’t know if his mom told him he was God’s gift to women, or he just mainlined a podcast about “shooting his shot,” but this man marched up like we had unfinished business from a previous life.

“Hey, I’ve seen you here before. You were alone last time too—want some company?”

Sir.

I took a deep breath, smiled in that corporate HR-approved way that says we’re keeping this professional, Tim, and replied, “That’s sweet of you, but I actually really enjoy being alone. Like, a lot. It’s kind of my thing. Top-tier hobby, honestly.”

His smile faltered. “So…is that a no?”

“I'm afraid so. But hey, the courage? Love that for you.”

And that was it. Quick, honest, and I didn’t pretend I was “too busy” or “not looking for anything”—because we all know those are just the polite equivalent of ghosting with extra steps.

The Bottom Line:

Rejecting someone nicely doesn’t mean softening the blow so much that they’re left confused and thinking there’s still a chance. It means being honest without being cruel. Clear without a side of condescension. And if you can sprinkle in a compliment about their bravery before you hit them with the verbal Uno reverse card? Chef’s kiss.

Because the only thing worse than rejection is false hope—and trust me, nobody’s got time for a hopeful man lingering like a pop-up ad you just can’t close.

So, is there a nice way to reject someone? Absolutely.

But will it always feel nice? Not a chance.

And that’s okay. You’re not a villain; you’re just prioritizing your peace. And in this economy? That’s the kind of main character energy we all deserve.

~smy